In the Junior School we are excitedly practicing for our trip to Sydney to perform on the Town Hall stage at the IPSHA Music Festival. This is the first time NEGS has been involved in this great activity and I need to give thanks to Mrs Spillane and all the students who have given up their time for early morning and lunch time rehearsals.
This week we have also had a visiting school group form China which has been fun and it has been great to see the children mixing in the playground.
With the Junior school now finishing their Term 3 Parent / Teacher interviews I thought I would add this excerpt from Michael Grose.
WORRY BY MICHAEL GROSE
If you’ve ever spent a sleepless night worrying then you’ll know how problems always seem bigger when you keep tossing them around in your head. It can seem like everything is stacked against you. When this happens you’ve got to find the off switch so you can get away from your worries for a while. The same principle holds for children and teenagers when they worry. Their problems just seem to get bigger and they need to turn them off or tone them down so they can ease their anxiety. There are eight easy-to-learn strategies that you can teach your children to prevent them from ruminating – going over the same thoughts and worries over and over again.
Broaden their vision – Children get tunnel vision when they worry. They often can’t see the bigger picture. For instance, a young person may fret over minor work matters such getting the exact font match for an assignment they are working on, and neglect to get the sleep necessary for good learning the next day. Sometimes it takes a wise adult to remind children and young people about what really is important to them.
Put their attention elsewhere – Placing attention away from worries is an age old technique for parents and teachers. Commonly known as distraction, the act of focusing attention on something other than what causes them distress is vital for good mental health. Examples of distractions include – going outside, playing a game, shooting some basketball hoops or listening to music.
Give the worry a name – Somehow giving a worry a name makes it feel less scary and more manageable. My favourite picture storybook for toddlers ‘There’s a Hippopotamus on our Roof‘ by Hazel Edwards personifies fear of the dark as a friendly hippo. Much more friendly and easier to boss around if you’re a child.
Put your worries in a jar – Wouldn’t it be great to put all your worries into a safe and throw away the key? As an adult you may do this when you take time out to watch your favourite TV show; or lose yourself wandering for hours online. Children need something a little more practical. They can write their worries on some paper and lock them in away in a jar by the side of the bed at the end of the day. It’s good to know that their worries can’t get out because they are locked up tight.
Limit talking time – It’s good if children can talk about what’s on their mind but talking needs to be contained to prevent their worries from dominating their lives. Set aside ten minutes a day to talk about their worries and then put worry time aside until tomorrow.
Normalise rather than lionise their anxiety – Anxious children are very sensitive to their parents’ concerns and worries. One way we build their concerns is by continually reassuring them that things will be fine. One reassurance should be sufficient most of the time followed by “I’ve already talked to you about that.” Continually going over old ground can allow worries to linger longer than necessary.
Give them the tools to relax. Some people need a bigger set of tools including mindfulness and exercise to help us neutralise our worries.
Move it! Get children moving. Physical exercise is not only a great distraction but it release feel-good endorphins that help children and young people feel better and more optimistic about the future.
We all worry to a certain extent – learning to manage our concerns and put them in perspective is the goal.